“True Threat” Requirement for Harassment Findings and Domestic-Violence–Informed Custody: Sole Custody with Supervised Parenting Time

1. Introduction

Matter of Raelene KK. v Anthony LL. (2026 NY Slip Op 03721 [3d Dept 2026]) is a combined Family Court Act article 8 family-offense and custody dispute between Raelene KK. (the mother) and Anthony LL. (the father), parents of a child born in 2020. The parties were separated at the child’s birth; the child remained almost entirely in the mother’s care. The mother filed two family offense petitions in mid-2023 and sought sole custody with supervised parenting time for the father. The father later filed his own petitions seeking custody and alleging family offenses by the mother.

After a two-day hearing, Family Court: (i) granted the mother’s first family offense petition, finding the father committed a family offense and issuing an order of protection; (ii) denied the remaining family offense petitions; and (iii) awarded the mother sole legal and primary physical custody with supervised parenting time for the father. The father appealed.

The Third Department’s opinion is significant for how it: (1) distinguishes “mere angry words” from a legally actionable “true threat” when assessing harassment claims; and (2) reinforces that proven domestic violence and credible abduction threats can justify supervised parenting time and support an award of sole custody.

2. Summary of the Opinion

The Appellate Division, Third Department affirmed. It held:

  • The mother proved by a fair preponderance of the evidence that the father committed harassment in the second degree under Penal Law § 240.26, based on physical violence during pregnancy and a course of menacing threats (including threats to harm her and take/leave with the child).
  • The father failed to prove the mother committed harassment in the first or second degree; her admitted retaliatory statements were credited as “mere angry words,” not “true threat[s]” amounting to an unequivocal statement of intended physical harm.
  • On custody, the record provided a sound and substantial basis for awarding the mother sole legal and physical custody, and ordering the father’s parenting time to be supervised, given domestic violence, the father’s lack of contact and follow-through, threats to abscond with the child, and conflict impairing joint decision-making.

3. Analysis

A. Precedents Cited

1) Burden of proof and deference to Family Court credibility findings

The court anchored its family-offense review in the standard that the petitioner must prove a qualifying offense by a “fair preponderance of the evidence,” citing Matter of Alison EE. v Stephen FF. and Matter of Amber EE. v Kalam EE.. That framing matters because it clarifies the evidentiary threshold is civil—not criminal—yet still requires persuasive proof of each element.

The Third Department then emphasized its customary appellate restraint on factual questions and credibility, citing Matter of McKenzie v Berkovitch and Matter of Pauline DD. v Dawn DD.. This deference was pivotal: the outcome turned largely on which party the Family Court believed, particularly regarding the meaning and seriousness of threats and whether the father engaged in violent conduct.

2) Harassment in the second degree: physical contact and course-of-conduct theories

For Penal Law § 240.26 (1) (physical contact), the court cited Matter of Paul Y. v Patricia Z. to support that pushing/kicking a pregnant partner with intent to harass, annoy, or alarm constitutes second-degree harassment.

For Penal Law § 240.26 (3) (course of conduct with no legitimate purpose), the court relied on Matter of Samah DD. v Mark VV. and Matter of Jasmin NN. v Jasmin C. to validate that repeated threats and menacing communications—especially those implying violence and child-abduction— can constitute a harassment course of conduct that alarms the victim and serves no legitimate purpose.

3) “True threat” requirement: separating actionable threats from angry rhetoric

The opinion’s most jurisprudentially instructive move is its explicit reliance on People v Lagano for the proposition that harassment liability (as pleaded and litigated here) requires more than heated language—it requires a “true threat,” i.e., an “unequivocal statement of intended physical harm.” Applying People v Lagano, the court agreed with Family Court that the mother’s admitted statements (that she would kill the father) were reactive and not meant as real threats, and thus did not satisfy the legal threshold.

The court reinforced that approach with Matter of James v Bailey, demonstrating cross-department consistency that courts evaluate context, seriousness, and definiteness when determining whether a statement is a true threat rather than “mere angry words.”

4) Pleading/characterization of family offense claims

In Footnote 1, the court addressed a procedural nuance: the father’s petition did not explicitly label harassment counts, but the allegations attempted to plead harassment. The court cited Matter of Oksoon K. v Young K. to support construing the petition by its substance rather than its labels—an important reminder that Family Court frequently evaluates pro se or imperfect pleadings for the offense actually described.

5) Best interests of the child and domestic violence as a custody factor

On custody, the court reiterated that the “paramount concern” in an initial custody determination is the child’s best interests, citing Matter of Brian Q. v Allysa R.. It elaborated the multi-factor analysis—home environment, stability, parental fitness, and willingness to promote the child’s relationship with the other parent—through Matter of Jahari BB. v Zada CC. and Matter of Mary AA. v Lonnie BB..

Critically, it cited Matter of Robert C. v Katlyn D. for the rule that when domestic violence allegations are proven by a preponderance, the court must consider their effect. In this case, credible testimony of repeated violence, including violence in the child’s presence, became a central best-interests input.

6) Supervised visitation/parenting time

The court cited Matter of Christopher WW. v Avonna XX. (and Matter of Michael NN. v Robert OO.) for the principle that supervised visitation is proper when unsupervised contact would be detrimental to the child’s safety because a parent is unable or unwilling to discharge parental responsibilities properly. Here, the father’s absence from the child’s life, his stated refusal to participate in supervised visitation, and evidence of violent conduct supported supervision.

The opinion’s “sound and substantial basis” appellate posture for custody determinations is grounded in Matter of Britney A. v Jonathan A. and Matter of Thomas K. v Shauna L., reinforcing that custody outcomes rarely turn on appellate reweighing of disputed facts.

7) Applications to sole custody and joint custody denial

In affirming sole custody, the court cited Matter of Stephanie R. v Walter Q. and Matter of Amanda YY v Faisal ZZ. for the proposition that where the record supports one parent as the stable primary caregiver and the other parent shows conflict or disengagement, sole custody is appropriate. For rejecting joint legal custody due to inability to communicate, the court cited Matter of Sheena PP. v Edward QQ..

8) Domestic violence and hostility as best-interests considerations; supervision supported by abduction threats

The court drew on a line of Third Department cases—Matter of Mackenzie OO. v Ian NN., Matter of Samantha E. v Nicholas F., Matter of Aden HH. v Charish GG., and Matter of Warda NN. v Muhammad OO.—to confirm that a parent’s history of violence, instability, and hostility can strongly weigh against that parent in custody determinations.

For supervised parenting time specifically, the court cited Matter of Kelly SS. v Justin TT., Matter of Mackenzie OO. v Ian NN., and Matter of Carin R. v Seth R. to support supervision where there is a combination of limited parent-child relationship, threats to abscond, and violence occurring in the child’s presence.

B. Legal Reasoning

1) Family offense determination: harassment in the second degree

The court affirmed a harassment finding under two complementary theories within Penal Law § 240.26:

  • Physical-contact harassment (Penal Law § 240.26 [1]): The mother testified the father pushed her down and stomped/kicked her stomach while she was 18 weeks pregnant, leading to a hospital visit out of miscarriage concern. Family Court credited this testimony. The appellate court treated that conduct as qualifying physical contact undertaken with the requisite intent to harass, annoy, or alarm.
  • Course-of-conduct harassment (Penal Law § 240.26 [3]): The opinion emphasizes the father’s repeated, explicit threats (introduced through text messages), including violent threats (“come stomp… eyes out”) and threats related to taking the child (“I’ll leave with her when I get her”). The court characterized this as a course of conduct that alarmed the mother and had no legitimate purpose.

In short, the Third Department did not treat the case as a “mutual arguing” dispute; it treated the combination of physical violence during pregnancy and documented threats as satisfying the civil burden for a family offense.

2) Denial of the father’s harassment claims: lack of detail and absence of “true threats”

The court affirmed denial of the father’s petitions for two connected reasons:

  1. Insufficient specificity: The father’s testimony that the mother threatened to kill him “at least 20 times” lacked contextual detail. The absence of particulars undermined proof of intent, seriousness, and the statutory elements.
  2. Contextual assessment under the “true threat” doctrine: Even though the mother admitted to making two threatening statements, Family Court credited her explanation that they were reactive to the father’s menacing comments and not meant literally. Under People v Lagano, the statements were not “true threat[s]” because they were not “unequivocal statement[s] of intended physical harm.”

The appellate court’s reliance on “true threat” analysis illustrates that Family Court harassment findings—especially when based on speech—require careful separation of venting/argument from credible, definite threats of violence.

3) Custody: best interests with domestic violence and stability at the core

On custody, the court credited evidence that the mother had been the child’s consistent primary caregiver—medical care, insurance, food, clothing, and consistent facilitation of supervised visits—contrasted with the father’s limited involvement (including no contact during the first year and minimal attendance at supervised visits).

Domestic violence was treated as a mandatory best-interests input once proven by a preponderance. The court highlighted: (i) multiple incidents of violence against the mother, including while pregnant; (ii) a violent incident in a car with the child present; and (iii) corroborative context from CPS investigation records describing serious allegations involving the father and stepchildren.

These factors supported:

  • Sole legal custody: The parties’ inability to communicate effectively made joint decision-making unrealistic and contrary to the child’s interests.
  • Sole physical custody: The mother’s stable caregiving history and willingness to foster contact weighed strongly in her favor.
  • Supervised parenting time: The father’s threats to abscond with the child, the extended gap in contact, and violence in the child’s presence made unsupervised parenting time potentially detrimental.

C. Impact

1) Speech-based harassment claims will be filtered through “true threat” analysis

The opinion signals that even in Family Court (civil burden), not every angry or hyperbolic statement is actionable. Litigants asserting harassment based on threats should expect courts to demand context and specificity and to ask whether the statement was an “unequivocal” expression of intended harm. This may reduce the success of retaliatory or “cross-petition” harassment filings that rely on generalized claims without detail.

2) Documented threats and communications (texts) can be dispositive

The father’s text messages were central proof of course-of-conduct harassment and abduction risk. Practically, this encourages parties and counsel to preserve communications and present them coherently to establish (or rebut) intent, credibility, and the presence/absence of legitimate purpose.

3) Supervised parenting time as a safety and reintegration tool

By affirming supervision where there was both domestic violence and lack of recent parent-child contact—along with threats to abscond—the decision reinforces that supervision is not merely punitive; it is an evidence-based mechanism to protect the child while allowing contact that can later be expanded if circumstances improve.

4) Litigation posture matters: refusal to engage in supervision undermines parenting-time claims

The father’s repeated insistence that he would not participate in supervised visitation supported the conclusion that he was unwilling to discharge parental responsibilities in the manner the court deemed necessary for the child’s safety and wellbeing. Future litigants should expect such testimony to weigh heavily against them.

4. Complex Concepts Simplified

  • Family offense proceeding (Family Ct Act article 8): A civil process where certain crimes (like harassment) are litigated in Family Court between family or intimate parties; relief can include an order of protection.
  • Preponderance of the evidence / fair preponderance: More likely than not. The judge decides which version of events is more probable.
  • Harassment in the second degree (Penal Law § 240.26): Includes (among other things) physical contact intended to harass/annoy/alarm, and a course of conduct that alarms/seriously annoys and serves no legitimate purpose.
  • Harassment in the first degree (Penal Law § 240.25): A more serious harassment offense with additional elements; the opinion references it in addressing what the father tried (and failed) to prove.
  • “True threat”: Not just harsh language—rather, a serious, unequivocal expression of intent to inflict physical harm. Courts look at context and credibility.
  • Legal custody vs physical custody: Legal custody concerns decision-making (education, health care); physical custody concerns where the child lives day to day.
  • Supervised parenting time: Visits occur in the presence of a supervisor/agency to protect the child and/or the other parent.
  • Sound and substantial basis: An appellate standard of review meaning the trial court’s decision will stand if the record reasonably supports it, especially where credibility assessments drive the outcome.

5. Conclusion

Matter of Raelene KK. v Anthony LL. affirms two practical rules in New York Family Court litigation. First, harassment findings—particularly when threats are alleged—turn on credibility, context, and whether the statement is a legally cognizable “true threat,” not merely reactive anger. Second, in custody determinations, proven domestic violence, documented threats to abscond, and a parent’s disengagement can justify awarding sole custody to the stable primary caregiver and restricting the other parent to supervised parenting time.

The decision thus functions as a roadmap for how courts integrate: (i) evidentiary burdens in family-offense proceedings; (ii) constitutional and doctrinal limits on treating speech as harassment; and (iii) a domestic-violence-informed best-interests analysis when structuring custody and parenting time.