Ordered that the order is affirmed, with costs.
The father alleged that he was legally relieved of his obligation to pay child support to the mother based on his alleged oral agreement with her to pay the ordered support directly to their children. He offered no evidence, however, save for his own word, that such an agreement actually existed. Given that the father failed to seek appropriate relief by application to the court for a modification of child support payments, and instead resorted to self-help, the mother was entitled to a judgment for the arrears ( see, Theodoreu v. Theodoreu, 225 A.D.2d 686; see also, Goldfarb v. Goldfarb, 175 A.D.2d 275, 276; Miller v. Miller, 160 A.D.2d 912, 913).
Similarly unpersuasive is the father's argument that he should be relieved of his obligation to pay child support to the mother because he had chosen to pay the college tuition and room and board for the parties' daughters. Voluntary payments made by a parent for the benefit of his or her children and not pursuant to a court order may not be credited against amounts due under the order ( see, Mayeri v. Mayeri, 220 A.D.2d 647, 648; Lefkow v. Lefkow, 188 A.D.2d 589, 590; Matter of Hamlin v. Kirnan, 186 A.D.2d 1038, Krantz v. Krantz, 175 A.D.2d 865, 866).
Further, contrary to the father's contention, the mother did not engage in any affirmative conduct tending to indicate a waiver of her right to receive support payments ( see, Eldridge v. Eldridge, 228 A.D.2d 473), and a waiver is not created by her mere silence ( see, Mitchell v. Mitchell, 170 A.D.2d 585; Liebling v. Liebling, 146 A.D.2d 673, 674).
Additionally, as the father never made an application for a downward modification or termination in his alimony obligation, the court properly found that there was no basis to terminate the alimony payments ( see, Matter of Cox v. Cox, 181 A.D.2d 201, 205).
The father's remaining contentions are without merit.
Bracken, J. P., Rosenblatt, Ritter and Friedmann, JJ., concur.